ENTJ

对ENTJ类型的人来说，一生中最重要的是展现自身的实力，并实现某些重大的事情。他们是天生的指挥家和领导者。这一点无论在他们身为世界领导人时所展现的魅力和手腕上，还是在身为宗教领导人时所体现的麻木不仁上，都得到很好的映证。ENTJ人喜欢先设计好一个计划，然后再去实现它。

ENTJ人经常以一种讲述传奇色彩的口吻来描述他们的项目和计划；这种能力对身为销售人员、以说笑话为主的喜剧演员、故事演讲家的他们派上很大的用场。结合他们与生俱来的"阻挠议事"的本事，顾客很难会拒绝我们主人公的要求。

ENTJ人很果断。他们明白需要做什么，然后把该做的事分配下去。其他类型的人在遇到冲突时，很少像他们一样能够保持决断，击败强大的对手。当受到挑战时，他们会变得很好争辩；或以横眉冷对，那眼神似乎在传达这样一种信息：ENTJ是不能被小瞧的。

外刚内柔的陆军元帅型（ENTJ）

若你是一个陆军元帅型

你天生就是一个领导人，而你也早就知道这一点。这也是为什么你已跳过这本书中其他的章节，直接翻到这个部分来阅读的原因。你对小事情、重复的事情或早已知道的事情没有多少耐心。

作为所有恋爱类型中最毫无保留的一种类型，你习惯依自己的方式行事，但同时也会确保其他人享有双赢的局面。你陶醉于找一个和你一样，对生命中重要的事情拥有相同欲望的成功人士，而所谓重要的事情，是指创意和成就，权力和表现。

当你恋爱时

你的风度和领袖魅力会吸引异性，同时这也保证你的约会手册经常都排得很满。你的问题不是如何吸引异性，而是如何选择一个可以补足你称做“理想帝国”的正确伴侣，一个可以和你一起追求理想生活的伴侣。

作为一个喜欢竞争的陆军元帅型，你对于是否可以得到一个美人的爱恋很感兴趣；这种挑战对你而言是很刺激的。虽然性的化学作用很重要，但长期而言，作为一个陆军元帅型，会较偏好一个在成就水平和脑袋能量与自身匹配的伴侣。

一旦陷入一段感情中，你会努力创造一种崇高的生活。你最喜爱的娱乐是和另一半玩头脑风暴游戏，玩出一个可以让你们两人更加健康快乐的伟大点子。

你的最佳恋爱类型

若你是一个女性陆军元帅型

你的最佳伴侣是男性陆军元帅型或是大男人型(ESTJ)。和陆军元帅型在一起，等于是在和一位旗鼓相当的伴侣相处，一场积极表现的游戏也许会在你们两人之间进行，因为你们两人总是不断地想要超越对方，在智慧上、情感上、性事上或其他方面。大部分的时间里，这样的游戏是很令人兴奋的，虽然这种持续的竞争会削弱你们的感情，而且也许需要你们两人暂时分开一段时间。

如果你会被那种老式作风的男性吸引，男性大男人型是个不错的选择。他们会在上下车时为你打开车门，并且给你经济和情感上的安全感。你会厌倦于扮演一个女强人的角色，可以放松地休息，让这个“终极的保护者”来照顾你。

仅管如此，要确定这个大男人型在感受(S)偏向上并不是太强烈。若他是一个很强烈的感受型，他也许无法跟上这种奇妙的直觉性思考，而让你觉得他太无聊。

若你是一个男性陆军元帅型

女性学者型(INTP)，发明家型(ENTP)，大男人型(ESTJ)或陆军元帅型对你而言都是很好的选择。你也许会和陆军元帅型起冲突，但是你们两人交往中所激发的能量远超过那些激烈的争辩。

若你的理想情人是一个陆军元帅型

在哪里可以遇到一个陆军元帅型情人？

就如同陆军元帅型这个名称中所蕴涵的意思，他们喜欢发号施令并且处于舞台的中央。通常可以在法院中找到这一型的律师，或是在董事会找到担任高级长官的他们，或是在健身俱乐部中找到他们的身影。

他们也是政坛、慈善机构和宗教组织中掌有大权的领导人。要找到陆军元帅型，只要到权力所在的地方就对了：他们本来就属于那个地方—处于高位或正在努力往高处爬。你可以在进口精品店、外国车行、单身者美食俱乐部、风帆俱乐部、马球俱乐部和乡村俱乐部找到陆军元帅型的人。

要遇到积极有为的陆军元帅型，你也可以到法学院或管理学院的图书馆和中庭溜达。要遇到经验老到的陆军元帅型，你可以去当地的初审律师公会，或是你可以参加为企业家设立的协会。

如何与一个陆军元帅型情人约会？

你可以用言语上的笑话来吸引陆军元帅型，用你的话语让他觉得很开心。记住：这个聪明的健谈者喜欢在和敏捷的人的对话中加入他尖锐的智慧。若你可以表现出对方喜爱的聪*黠之言语，毋庸置疑地，你已打动了他的心。

在所有知识追求者当中，陆军元帅型是最挑剔外表的。他们喜欢认为自己有能力赢得一位外表讨好、并且外型匹配的伴侣。

然而，这并不表示若你不是最令人满意的伴侣，陆军元帅型就会自动把你剔除。如果你拥有陆军元帅型尊重的人格特质和思考能力，相较于在外表上具吸引力但是头脑简单的人，他仍然会追求你。

*约会锦囊：保持冷静，不管陆军元帅型如何挑战你。

陆军元帅型，会比其他任何一种恋爱类型喜欢测试你是否可以适应他直接的方式。若你可以接受，他们一定会把你当做一个有潜能的未来伴侣。

露丝是一个法学预科的学生，当在研究她的一门政治学报告时，她数次拜访她社区内的法律学院图书馆。在她第一次到该图书馆时，就注意到了艾维—一个引人注目的法律系学生，拥有浓黑的卷发、有个性的鹰钩鼻和一股特有的幽默感。

通过艾维说话和表达自己的方式，露丝知道艾维是她的理想恋爱类型—陆军元帅型。任何时候，只要艾维一出现，图书馆内的法律系学生都会从不同角落冒出来对他表示敬意，并和这位“杀手级的未来律师”寒暄几句。

露丝选择了一个艾维身边的位子，但是不与艾维做任何眼神交流，也没有开始任何对话。她知道陆军元帅型喜欢自己展开第一步的动作，所以她不愿让他误会是她先对他感兴趣。

她保留的态度奏效了，在她第三次到图书馆时，艾维开口跟她说话：“你并不是法律系学生，也不是律师吧？我之前在这里看过你，你在这做什么呢？”

露丝平静地回答：“我并不是大海中的鲨鱼(美国人把律师称做鲨鱼)。其他人有时也需要用到图书馆。”

“你认为律师是鲨鱼，对吗？”艾维感兴趣地回答。他认为这个女孩子有一种尖锐的机灵，同时她长得还可以，蓄着棕色短发，穿着合体的衣服。

“不是全部。”露丝半带着微笑回答。“只有那些在他们名字后面挂JD(法律最高学位)的。”

“哦，我了解了！”艾维说。他情不自禁地一直浅笑。她是他要的类型，完全就是：一个有自信的聪明女子。“好吧，那你是否愿意让这尾鲨鱼请你喝杯饮料呢？”

“当然好啊！即使是鲨鱼也得喝水。”露丝聪明地回答。

就如同露丝所预期的，艾维彻底被她自信的态度和幽默的语气所吸引，他疯狂地追求她。在最初拒绝他一段时间之后(她知道陆军元帅型喜欢追求的游戏)，她渐渐地表现出更浓的爱意，在10个月后，她在艾维邀请她与他同居时答应了他。

另外一点：若你和一位陆军元帅型讨论恋爱类型系统，要确定你可以回答所有关于恋爱类型系统的研究基础，以及可靠性之类的问题。陆军元帅型是所有恋爱类型中最多疑的，他会要你证明这个系统的科学绩效。

若一个陆军元帅型问了一个你无法回答的恋爱类型系统问题，别感到沮丧。你只需回答：“我现在无法立刻回答你的问题，但我会找出答案并且回头再告诉你。”

理所当然，你需要知道这名陆军元帅型家中的电话，以便回电告知他之前询问的问题。大部分的情况是，陆军元帅型的好奇心将驾驭他，你将轻易地得到他的电话号码。现在你要做的只是打电话约那位陆军元帅型出来，但最好确定你已准备好答应要给他的信息，因为陆军元帅型百分之百会问及他想要的答案。

如何赢得陆军元帅型情人的爱？

最重要的是，不要被陆军元帅型令人畏惧的外表所吓倒。陆军元帅型敏锐的脑袋、卓越的沟通技巧、在话语上令人困惑的意图，还有他强势的个性，对大部分人而言都是一种威胁。

然而，在陆军元帅型表面的傲慢之下，是一颗忠诚的心。不管发生任何事情，他都可以照顾你。若你有耐心及勇气去发现他的“温柔面”，陆军元帅型将会回报高度的忠贞感情和深度了解。想要进入陆军元帅型温柔的核心，你得付出代价。这种代价会是必须习惯冲突的发生，甚至享受它。

虽然如此，从陆军元帅型的眼光看来，那并不是冲突，只不过是在友善的讨论之中激起的意见交换。陆军元帅型会被可以和他们进行逻辑问答、激烈辩论和拥有机灵敏锐脑袋的人所吸引。

*恋爱锦囊：找出当下荒谬之处。

陆军元帅型喜欢点出他们在生活中，或其他人身上观察到的缺失和不一致性。你可以参与陆军元帅型刻薄的幽默感，和他一起用言语刺伤那些自负的人、愚昧的人和虚伪的人，这样将赢得他的欢心。

虽然某些恋爱类型会觉得陆军元帅型处理幽默的方式太具讽刺性，甚至很残忍，对于陆军元帅型而言，贬低那些本来就该被贬低的人是很自然的事。这是陆军元帅型坚强的精神和对生命充满竞争的观点。

如何和陆军元帅型情人拥有美好的性关系？

陆军元帅型有可能很热情，但不一定贴心可爱。若一个陆军元帅型拥抱你，通常都是因为想要获得温暖，并不是因为他想要表达“多情”。

吹毛求疵的陆军元帅型在性事上也许显得有些盛气凌人(大部分的陆军元帅型喜欢在上面的位置)，但也因此可以制造很多和其他恋爱类型在一起时无法达到的刺激感。有些陆军元帅型喜欢在床上扮演与白天截然不同的角色，完全柔顺任人摆布，因为这是他可以放松休息，尝试让另一个人控制的机会。

**锦囊：超越极限的游戏。

记住陆军元帅型喜欢在每件事上竞争，包括性事。想要刺激你陆军元帅型情人的性生活，你可以告诉对方你想要尝试一个为期30天的趣味*游戏。游戏规则是每个人每周要想出一个新的性技巧、方法或姿势。然后，在那个星期内，每个人都有机会介绍他的新方法。之后伴侣双方都会评量他们对每一个性技巧的喜爱程度，然后把他们的评分加总以决定每一项技巧的总成绩。

在这个月最后一天，谁的技巧得到最高分，他或她将成为胜利者。

玛莎，一个29岁的房地产经纪人，尝试和她的未婚夫罗杰—也是一个房地产经纪人，玩“超越*极限”的游戏，她显然对游戏结果非常满意。

起初玛莎认为罗杰会自私地把他自己的技巧评为100分，而把她评量为0分，好让他自己可以在30天后赢得胜利。但事实上罗杰在评量她的选择时相当的公平且合乎逻辑。

当30天过去后，宣布结果玛莎是胜利者，但事实上，两个人都是赢家。他们的性生活比以前更好了。

谈到*时，陆军元帅型通常会带来高难度的技巧和专业。他们知道如何取悦他们自己和他们的伴侣，因为他们已经尝试过并且评估过很多种不同的性姿势，通过不断尝试，他们知道哪一种最好。若你愿意让陆军元帅型教导你，你将会尝试到无比的惊喜。

如何和陆军元帅型情人维持一段长久的关系？

根据我的研究，陆军元帅型的伴侣认为他们(包括男性和女性)是所有恋爱类型中最盛气凌人的。陆军元帅型对于争论最常见的回答是：“我会和你争论到底！”

在现实中，陆军元帅型尊重那些支持他们的人，虽然这样的人很少。要和一位陆军元帅型拥有成功的感情，你必须参与他喜爱的辩论。你也必须对这位自信的战士表示出你对他看待世界独特的方式有一定的尊重。你要时时记住，陆军元帅型是以一种对立的角度看待生活的，他有强烈的控制欲，同时他也强烈地希望其他人以学习的态度参与具争议性的辩论。男性陆军元帅型是家庭中有能力及命令权的配偶，也是一家的领袖。他们好辩及经常失去耐性的个性，有时会让人觉得厌烦；但是他们的聪慧、敏捷和成功的驱动力却可以弥补他们人格上的缺失。

女性陆军元帅型为她们的感情带来一种仅属于她们自己、别具风格的女性特质—包含了傲慢、独立和在对立中的享受。只有那些有自信、懂得尊重独立自主女性的男人才适合她们。

长远看来，一位有成就的陆军元帅型可以成为你所见过最刺激、最具启发性、同时不断成长的恋爱类型。如果给陆军元帅型一个机会，他可以成为一位很好的伴侣，他会尽一切的努力把婚姻和家庭生活，推向最高的成功完美境界。

The Executive

As an ENTJ, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal with things rationally and logically. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.

ENTJs are natural born leaders. They live in a world of possibilities where they see all sorts challenges to be surmounted, and they want to be the ones responsible for surmounting them. They have a drive for leadership, which is well-served by their quickness to grasp complexities, their ability to absorb a large amount of impersonal information, and their quick and decisive judgments. They are "take charge" people.

ENTJs are very career-focused, and fit into the corporate world quite naturally. They are constantly scanning their environment for potential problems which they can turn into solutions. They generally see things from a long-range perspective, and are usually successful at identifying plans to turn problems around - especially problems of a corporate nature. ENTJs are usually successful in the business world, because they are so driven to leadership. They're tireless in their efforts on the job, and driven to visualize where an organization is headed. For these reasons, they are natural corporate leaders.

There is not much room for error in the world of the ENTJ. They dislike to see mistakes repeated, and have no patience with inefficiency. They may become quite harsh when their patience is tried in these respects, because they are not naturally tuned in to people's feelings, and more than likely don't believe that they should tailor their judgments in consideration for people's feelings. ENTJs, like many types, have difficulty seeing things from outside their own perspective. Unlike other types, ENTJs naturally have little patience with people who do not see things the same way as the ENTJ. The ENTJ needs to consciously work on recognizing the value of other people's opinions, as well as the value of being sensitive towards people's feelings. In the absence of this awareness, the ENTJ will be a forceful, intimidating and overbearing individual. This may be a real problem for the ENTJ, who may be deprived of important information and collaboration from others. In their personal world, it can make some ENTJs overbearing as spouses or parents.

The ENTJ has a tremendous amount of personal power and presence which will work for them as a force towards achieving their goals. However, this personal power is also an agent of alienation and self-aggrandizement, which the ENTJ would do well to avoid.

ENTJs are very forceful, decisive individuals. They make decisions quickly, and are quick to verbalize their opinions and decisions to the rest of the world. The ENTJ who has not developed their Intuition will make decisions too hastily, without understanding all of the issues and possible solutions. On the other hand, an ENTJ who has not developed their Thinking side will have difficulty applying logic to their insights, and will often make poor decisions. In that case, they may have brilliant ideas and insight into situations, but they may have little skill at determining how to act upon their understanding, or their actions may be inconsistent. An ENTJ who has developed in a generally less than ideal way may become dictatorial and abrasive - intrusively giving orders and direction without a sound reason for doing so, and without consideration for the people involved.

Although ENTJs are not naturally tuned into other people's feelings, these individuals frequently have very strong sentimental streaks. Often these sentiments are very powerful to the ENTJ, although they will likely hide it from general knowledge, believing the feelings to be a weakness. Because the world of feelings and values is not where the ENTJ naturally functions, they may sometimes make value judgments and hold onto submerged emotions which are ill-founded and inappropriate, and will cause them problems - sometimes rather serious problems.

ENTJs love to interact with people. As Extroverts, they're energized and stimulated primarily externally. There's nothing more enjoyable and satisfying to the ENTJ than having a lively, challenging conversation. They especially respect people who are able to stand up to the ENTJ, and argue persuasively for their point of view. There aren't too many people who will do so, however, because the ENTJ is a very forceful and dynamic presence who has a tremendous amount of self-confidence and excellent verbal communication skills. Even the most confident individuals may experience moments of self-doubt when debating a point with an ENTJ.

ENTJs want their home to be beautiful, well-furnished, and efficiently run. They're likely to place much emphasis on their children being well-educated and structured, to desire a congenial and devoted relationship with their spouse. At home, the ENTJ needs to be in charge as much as he or she does in their career. The ENTJ is likely best paired with someone who has a strong self-image, who is also a Thinking type. Because the ENTJ is primarily focused on their careers, some ENTJs have a problem with being constantly absent from home, physically or mentally.

The ENTJ has many gifts which make it possible for them to have a great deal of personal power, if they don't forget to remain balanced in their lives. They are assertive, innovative, long-range thinkers with an excellent ability to translate theories and possibilities into solid plans of action. They are usually tremendously forceful personalities, and have the tools to accomplish whatever goals they set out for.

What does Success mean to an ENTJ?

ENTJ people are realists, in the most basic sense of the word. Not only because their thinking is based upon a clear view of how things actually are in the world around them, but also because their ideas and strategies are structured around those unambiguous, "down to earth", commonsense beliefs which sum up the obvious and undeniable in life. But while ENTJs might be pragmatic about the immediate situation before them, they are scarcely satisfied with it until it can be made more productive, useful or valuable. The ENTJ's reasoning on such matters is always clear and generally unemotional. If action can improve an item or a situation then it ought to be taken, and the ENTJ will always be found in the midst of such action, organizing, planning and leading the way forward until the best result possible has been realized. This makes success for an ENTJ something that can be clearly seen, a real world result which can be measured. And whether measured in dollars, bricks, bread or just happy people, the successful ENTJ knows the result is due to their belief that it is just plain commonsense to try and make the best of every situation and get the most out if it for the most people.

Allowing Your ENTJ Strengths to Flourish

As an ENTJ, you have gifts that are specific to your personality type that aren't natural strengths for other types. By recognizing your special gifts and encouraging their growth and development, you will more readily see your place in the world, and be more content with your role.

Potential Problem Areas

With any gift of strength, there is an associated weakness. Without "bad", there would be no "good". Without "difficult", there would be no "easy". We value our strengths, but we often curse and ignore our weaknesses. To grow as a person and get what we want out of life, we must not only capitalize upon our strengths, but also face our weaknesses and deal with them. That means taking a hard look at our personality type's potential problem areas.

ENTJ's are strong, right minded and rational people. This should be kept in mind as you read some of the more negative material about ENTJ weaknesses. These weaknesses are natural. We offer this information to enact positive change, rather than as blatant criticism.

Most of the weaker characteristics in the ENTJ stem from their dominant Extraverted Thinking function overtaking their personality, stifling the natural expression and balancing value of the other personality functions. In such cases, an ENTJ may show some or all of the following weaknesses in varying degrees:

Explanation of Problems

Most of the problems described above can be seen as a direct result of a too dominant Extraverted Thinking function ruling the personality. In most cases this is exactly what is happening, but it is also worth recognizing that some of the weaknesses in the ENTJ's personality that are more apparent to other Types, flow not so much from the excesses of the ENTJ's dominant function, but from the natural inferiority of their feeling function and its lack of adaptation. We must also recognize that the level of expression of all functions in all people is variable and that some of the problems discussed here apply only to strongly expressing ENTJ's, where the attitude which flows from using Extraverted Thinking exclusively to guide them through life creates its own particular problems.

The over dominance of Extraverted Thinking leads to an intensely intellectual way of seeing the world, where values such as right and wrong, good and bad, useful and useless are judged only by their applicability to an almost mathematically exact - and to the ENTJ - always rational, attitude to life. Without the balance provided by other ways of seeing or judging, the ENTJ is unable to account for actions based upon the inner views or feeling behavior of others, hence such things are always judged negatively, either as irrelevant - or at best - as being of small consequence. Additionally, with their thinking attitude always turned outward and totally subject to the world beyond their senses, without the balance of some internally felt objectivity the ENTJ will often follow their ideas and ambitions without consideration for their own physical and emotional needs. Indeed, the ENTJ often feels that if only his project, his work, his outer reality would just fall into line with his own rational views then all would be well within his world and all his needs would be met. Unfortunately such an attitude can never be satisfied, for the world is not only rational, but also full of situations and human behavior which must be appreciated and understood by quite different, and again - to the ENTJ - often seemingly absurd criteria.

A healthy personality needs to have a good balance between its dominant and auxiliary functions. For an ENTJ, dominant Extraverted Thinking needs to be well-supported by their auxiliary Introverted Intuitive function. If Introverted Intuition exists only to support the intellectual rationale created by Extraverted Thinking, then neither function is being used to its full potential.

Introverted Intuition is the ENTJ's access to their inner world, to the information that could tell them how the world is affecting them. Because it is introverted, its images arise from the subjective depths of the mind, and contain all that the ENTJ has not considered within their strictly rational and object oriented view of the world. Introverted Intuition provides the personally biased information the ENTJ needs to balance this world view and protect the ENTJ from being totally swallowed up by their selfless and yet single minded attachment to facts, figures and a rationale they accept only from the world outside themselves. Because this inner information is often opposed to the ENTJ's strongly held ideas it is often rejected, or if accepted, turned outward to make negative judgments about external situations or the behavior of others, rather than seen as a corrective balance to the ENTJ's own attitudes and behavior.

Solutions

To grow as an individual, the ENTJ needs to recognize the role Intuition plays in their life, and learn to understand its language. In particular the ENTJ needs to realize that their intuitive function is not directed outward to the world, that its images are personal, subjective and relate directly to the way the ENTJ's inner self is being affected by both the outside world and their own behavior.

Introverted Intuition is not an obvious process to understand, and quite unlike the rational, straightforward thinking the ENTJ is used to. Nevertheless, if understood and fully utilized to support thinking, it can make the ENTJ the most outwardly effective and productive of all the personality types. For this reason it is essential to allow this gift to become what it can be, rather than limiting its talents and allowing it only to speak when it seems to agree with the ENTJ's outwardly focused thinking. Below are a few specific suggestions to help you apply Introverted Intuition.

• When confronted by a situation which requires an important decision, try to put it off for long enough to be able to sit quietly with it. In doing so allow yourself to feel and see the images which arise in your mind regarding this situation. Try to set aside those which appear immediately as the products of your own beliefs and thinking, and regard the others closely. If these images and ideas were the opinions of people whose judgment you trusted implicitly, try to question them in your mind and find the reasons why they consider things in such a way.
• There are some people around you who always seem to know just which way to go or how things work or what the outcome of a certain situation will be without them seeming to have sufficient information to be able to do so. These people are intuitive types and their world is full of possibilities which they can immediately recognize as apt to certain situations. You also have this talent, but you have a habit of not following it, rather you prefer to think it out and find the options which "ought" to be correct. I placed ought in quotes for a very good reason here, for you know yourself how often things have developed in the direction you had an inkling of, but refused to accept without thinking. Try to let these immediate impressions have their moment and recognize them as true possibilities which ought to be examined more closely. Understand that they are not baseless images and ideas but rely upon valid sources of information which you simply screen out of your life by habit.

Living Happily in our World as an ENTJ

Some ENTJs have difficulty fitting into our society. Their problems are generally associated with a strongly dogmatic and overly rational approach to life, coupled with an almost total lack of ability to understand the needs of others. Where such a strongly expressing difficulty arises, the ENTJ finds themselves constantly embattled by a world which refuses to conform to their ideals and creates situations in which the ENTJ is out of their depth. Such situations are often met by the ENTJ with such a childish emotionality that others are put off and isolate the ENTJ emotionally. Such ENTJ's often find themselves without friends, and with business partners or employees who are unwilling to engage the ENTJ upon any matter other than strictly task related questions. Such behavior in others only serves to bring out underlying sentiments in the ENTJ which, via their badly adapted intuitive function, speak to them of plots, nastiness and covert obstructive behavior on the part of others. Suffice to say, such suspicions and childish sentiments coupled with dogmatic demands to conform to the ENTJ's own way of seeing the world can soon destroy families and close relationships.

It is incumbent upon the ENTJ to break the circle of such behavior by allowing their Introverted Intuition a place in their life. Through attention to this function the ENTJ can discover a path to understanding and recognizing the effects not only their own behavior has upon others, but also the greater possibilities which lie within themselves for not only a harmonious relationship with others, but also a greater sense of what might be best for themselves.

Understanding the feeling needs and judgments of others is not an easy task for the ENTJ, but through their Intuitive function they can find images and ideas which - whilst not speaking directly to the feeling judgments of others - might allow them to see outside the strictly rational circle of their world view in such a way as to recognize that there is indeed a different perspective which must be taken account of.

Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve ENTJ Success

1.     Feed Your Strengths! Give yourself every opportunity to show others your appreciation of a situation and how you could see it through to a good outcome. Take charge where you can make it count.

2.     Face Your Weaknesses! Understand you have limits too. Your careful world view is not the whole deal. How things look and feel may not concern you, but they concern many others. Try and allow such things to be and learn from them.

3.     Talk Time to Find Out How Others Really Think. You need to drive past your thoughts with others and let their appreciations of a situation reach you at a deeper level. It will then be possible for you to take account of their needs as real world objectives which if included in your ideas will bring greater harmony and quality to life and relationships.

4.     Take Time Out To Let The Whole Situation Speak To You. Don't dismiss those abstract and seemingly hard to understand or bothersome aesthetic and feeling judgments coming from others or from inside yourself. Drop everything for a while, stop thinking and worrying and just relax into those ideas and let them speak to you. Perhaps they can be accommodated, perhaps something is hiding in there which offers a new way

5.     When You Get Upset, You Lose. Your energy and rational understandings are strong assets, but can be very harmful if they turn against you and leave you with nothing but emotions you cannot deal with. Remember that others cannot always be expected to fall into your ways of seeing, and when your drive to make them do so fails you will suffer feelings of resentment and even abandonment. You cannot deal with the world like this. Moderate your ideas, allow others their spaces, and you will grow.

6.     Respect your Need for Intellectual Compatibility Don't expect yourself to be a "touchy-feely" or "warm-fuzzy" person. Realize that your most ardent bonds with others will start with the head, rather than the heart. Be aware of other's emotional needs, and express your genuine love and respect for them in terms that are real to YOU. Be yourself.

7.     Be Accountable for Yourself. Don't blame the problems in your life on other people. Look inwardly for solutions. No one has more control over your life than you have.

8.     Be Humble. Judge yourself at least as harshly as you judge others.

9.     Take a Positive Approach to Differences in People. Don't distress yourself and others by dwelling on what seem to be their limitations. They need you to guide them and you need them to see things through. Try and recognize who can perform the most ably within certain fields outside your own competence. Let the feelings of others become a strength rather than a hindrance to you.

10. Don't Get Obsessed! Recognize the value that personal world has to you, your friends, your family, your own inner selnse of self worth and life. Take pride in just being a good person and don't allow external situations to control you. Try to relax and let the moment belong to the best things you can find in others and yourself. Nothing out there is more important than your own happiness.